What are your money blocks?

Abha Malpani Naismith
3 min readMar 24, 2024

What is it about the pride of being financially independent that can actually deter us from being just that?

I stayed in my dead-end 9–5 job for at least 2 years more than I should have, because I was attached to a stable income.

“I had 2 kids; how could I not be a contributing member of the family?” I would tell myself. “And it’s not just about me anymore.”

This wasn’t the first time I was quitting my job to pursue new dreams. This time the difference was that I had a family and I felt a deep sense of responsibility towards them.

Also, what would I do if I quit my job without another one?

Leaving my job without another source of income was not an option for me — in my head, may I add.

And if I chose the entrepreneurial route: “it’s going to take me a while before I make consistent revenue,” I would think.

Which is nuts because financially we are stable. And we can afford loss of income for a while.

It was some illogical attachment to my own income that was holding me back from any new possibilities.

It was also my ego and pride of always being financially independent that I was not ready to part with.

How can I be dependent on my husband?

Sounds ridiculous, right?

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Luckily, my misery at work pushed me to explore side-hustles and the minute I saw potential in them, I handed in my resignation.

However, I still needed to take on freelance work before I was ready to go all in on my side-hustles.

I needed to know that even if I didn’t have a full time job, and even if my business / side-hustles didn’t take off, I could make it as a freelancer if I had to.

Questions I asked myself were and still are:

  • Where does this attachment come from?
  • How can it be overcome?
  • How can I get past it so that I can have the courage to pursue building a business of my dreams that will…



Abha Malpani Naismith

Communications professional. Digital strategist. Writer. Mum. AI enthusiast. Newsletter for working mums.